Care and support logistics
Plan a companion visit around the person's interests
Offer two or three activities drawn from what the person already enjoys, and make declining easy. For each, note the materials, a short and a longer duration, and a quiet alternative such as sitting together. The plan is a set of choices the person can take or leave.
A text to start with
I am visiting [person] on [day and approximate time]. Things they have said they enjoy: [interests]. Things they have said they dislike: [dislikes]. Suggest three low-pressure activity options, each with materials needed, a short and a longer version, and one alternative if they would rather do nothing planned. Phrase each as an offer I can make. Use only the interests I listed.
Example request. Change the details to fit your situation.Visit activity options
Person visited: [ ] Visit date and time: [ ] Interests they have named: [ ] Things they prefer to avoid: [ ] Option 1: [ ] Materials: [ ] Short version: [ ] minutes Longer version: [ ] minutes Option 2: [ ] Materials: [ ] Short version: [ ] minutes Longer version: [ ] minutes Alternative if they prefer nothing planned: [ ] What they chose on the day: [ ] What to try or skip next time: [ ]
Offers that become expectations
Phrase activities as offers the person can change or decline. Check whether each option follows a stated interest and whether a past favorite still appeals. Avoid claims that an ordinary social activity provides treatment or a particular health benefit. Confirm any extra setup, such as moving furniture or inviting another person, before including it. Give a quiet visit or an unplanned conversation equal standing with the prepared options. Adjust the length to what the person wants on the day.
Ask another agent to check the result
Check each activity option for wording that presents a social activity as treatment, therapy or improvement, or that assumes the person will participate. Rewrite any such phrasing as a plain offer. Point out any option that depends on an interest the person did not state.
Ask first, then adjust
Before the visit, ask which one or two options appeal, or say you will bring a few things and see what suits the day. Pack only the materials they approved. At the visit, offer one choice at a time and accept no. Afterward, note what they enjoyed and what they passed on so the next visit starts from their responses.